"I knew for sure that I wanted to create a wedding website but the free ones from magazines are nothing compared to the quality of Bwedd's ..." - Tracie, Wilmington, IL
I
would like to dedicate this issue of the Cost- Effective Bride to making your
time of planning energy- effective. Rather than talking about pinching pennies,
I am going to talk about sanity-savings. You are being bombarded with advertisements
and future in-laws and probably more stress than you ever imagined to come out
of something that is supposed to be a blissful event and you need some help
to remain sane and replenish your energy.
So,
I would like to give you four tips towards energy- efficiency and sanity-savings:
First, while planning your wedding you may have found that it has essentially
taken over your life. You need to reclaim your life, even if it is only for
a day or for a few hours and take some time to yourself.
What is it you used to do before all of this planning? Do you like to read?
Do you enjoy gardening? How about going for walks? Whatever it is that you
may have let slip or sacrificed for the greater good, you need to take that
time to yourself and enjoy the relaxation that comes with doing something
that you enjoy.
With all of the busy-ness surrounding your planning, you may have discovered
that you have not talked to your best friend or sister in weeks. It is easy
to lose contact with the ones we love the most when we are afraid that we
are boring them with the details of our lives or when we think that they don’t
understand what is going on in our lives.
Take some time to reconnect with your closest friends. Try not to talk too
much about your planning, but realize that it is a part of your life right
now and your friends probably are interested. But, they also want you to be
interested in their lives, so don’t forget to ask them questions and turn
the attention towards them, too.
It is so easy to get caught up in the selfishness of being a bride. We
think that everyone should be there for us and cater to us and care solely
about the stress that we feel - after all, it is OUR day, right? Wrong. It
is much our day as it is the day of the people who love and care for us and
only wish for our happiness.
To get away from centering on ourselves we need to do something for someone
else. You will be surprised how good (and relaxed) you will feel by making
someone else feel good. Cook a friend dinner, serve a meal at your local soup
kitchen, babysit for couple who could use a break, take your niece or nephew
out for an ice cream cone...there are so many things you can do for so many
people - give it a try and see how good you feel.
And finally, with all of the planning the you are deep into, have you found
that you have lost contact with your fiancé? Ironic, isn’t it, that all this
planning is for the beginning of your life together, but you are struggling
to find quality time with one another now?
If you want to start your marriage off right, then don’t neglect your relationship
now. Your life as one should always be your top priority, so go out on a date
as often as you can, and try not to talk about the wedding. Instead, focus
on your relationship, your love, and your future beyond the date of your marriage.
I
think that when you give these tips a try you may discover that your life becomes
a little more relaxed, a little more calm, and a lot more enjoyable. So be an
energy-efficient bride and reconnect with your friends and family, take some
time to yourself, do something for someone else, and make your relationship
with the one you love the priority.
I
wish you much luck at these and hope that they will bring tons of joy to your
life!
